Step 2.

Be yourself and allow your partner to be himself

                         Can you relate to any of these statements? 

• I don’t have a life. I feel like a prisoner in this marriage. I’m married with no friends. I have no hobbies. I feel controlled by my husband/wife.  I have no freedom.  My partner is a workaholic. Why should I do all the housework? My partner controls all the money. I have no independence.
        
• Marriage tends to change people. Before you get married, generally you are independent. However, once married, many people unfortunately lose their independence, and start to feel trapped in the marriage. They become suffocated by the demands of their spouse, they feel pressured to leave the relationship. Others admit to being "married and lonely". Many tell me, "I want to change my partner".
  
  
• Are you spending too much, or not enough time, with your friends? Find out more about this balance.
   
• How much time apart from your partner is good, and how much is harmful?
   
• What magical word, starting with A, do we really need from our partner?
   
• Are you a marriage martyr? The case study of Meaghan is a sad example (with a great ending) of a woman who always put herself last.
   
• If you have felt like you were controlled, and caged in, in your marriage, then go through the checklist, and see if you are a prisoner in your marriage. Then follow the steps to get out of this negative pattern.
   
• Why is it that when your partner has a bad day at work, he seems to take it out on you? Understand fully how your work, and your partners work, and hobbies, can dramatically affect your marriage.
   
• Homework: What steps to take if you love him, but you're not in love with him.
   
• Homework: What are you not doing with your life? In this soul searching quiz, grasp a deeper understanding on what you truly want out of life, and see how these desires affect your relationship.
   

Regain your independence,
and feel your love deepen.